
01
Delegate outcomes, not errands
Weak handoff
Can you help with dinner? The original planner still owns every decision.
Complete handoff
Please choose, shop for, prepare, and serve the salad for twelve people.
Clear boundary
Agree on budget, deadline, and what a finished result looks like.

02
Divide the season into ownership areas
- Calendar and travel
- Gifts and shipping
- Food and drinks
- Decorating and setup
- Guest communication
- Cleanup and storage

03
Run a ten-minute weekly check
Ask only what is decided, what is next, and what is blocked. Do not turn the check into another planning meeting.
Decided
Record the answer once so it stops returning as a question.
Next
Every owner names one complete next action.
Blocked
Resolve dependencies before taking on new work.
